A Menopausal Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day isn’t for everyone; if you’re not loved up or believe it’s become too commercialised, it can feel like any other day. But if you do want to celebrate and don’t feel like you can because of your menopause symptoms, it can feel like a tough day.
If you’re suffering from vaginal dryness, the thought of an intimate evening could affect your whole day. Meanwhile, a candlelit meal could set off hot flushes, and a rich romantic meal could leave you with night sweats later on. Add to that the chance of unpredictable mood swings, and the perfect Valentine’s Day will feel like a long way off.
Planning a romantic Valentine’s night in menopause might need a bit of extra thought, but you can still enjoy an intimate evening with your other half and keep your symptoms in check. Here’s how:
Find a Level of Intimacy That’s Comfortable for You
Vaginal dryness can make sex painful, due to the drop in your oestrogen levels thinning the walls of your vagina. Menopause supplements such as Femarelle® Unstoppable contain natural ingredients to help manage this symptom, but if you haven’t discovered them yet, there are still ways you can be intimate with your partner without causing yourself any discomfort.
A massage can be an incredibly sensual and intimate experience, especially when you use aromatherapy oils to stimulate more of the senses.
Simply enjoying some time on just the two of you, sharing a meal that you’ve cooked together and catching up can be lovely and intimate too. A long-term relationship needs to be about adapting to each other’s changing needs as you get older, but this can’t happen successfully if you don’t open up to your partner about what you need from them.
For example, if you need them to be understanding while you deal with your vaginal dryness, let them know why you’re not comfortable having sex with them at the moment - communication is the most important part of a relationship. You can find tips on starting these conversations here.
Avoid Hot Flushes with Your Menu
Whether you stay in and cook or go all out and treat yourselves to a meal in a swanky restaurant, there are certain foods to avoid if you want to reduce your risk of a hot flush or night sweat.
Steer clear of spicy food, as this can trigger your body’s temperature controls, which may have already been affected by the drop in your oestrogen levels - this is why hot flushes occur in the first place. Caffeine and alcohol can have a similar effect, so stick to soft drinks and say no to an after-dinner coffee.
If you do want to get intimate with your partner in the bedroom later on, you might want to go for foods that are designed to boost your libido, as loss of sex drive can be another common menopause symptom. Foods believed to have this effect include dark chocolate, oysters and pine nuts.
Show Yourself Some Love
You might have bought your partner a card or gift for Valentine’s Day, but it’s important to show yourself some love too. If you haven’t found a way to manage your menopause symptoms yet and don’t want them to impact special occasions in the future, as well as your day-to-day life, you need to find a treatment solution that suits you.
Natural supplements fit easily into daily life, as they’re designed to be taken as part of a healthy lifestyle. Finding a way to rebalance your hormones in menopause can help you to feel more like yourself again and could provide you with relief from multiple symptoms.
Femarelle® supplements contain the soy derivative DT56a, which is designed to mimic oestrogen in your body. This can help you to manage mood swings, hot flushes, night sweats, vaginal dryness and other symptoms too.
Explore the Femarelle® range available from Menopause Supplements here.